Don’t Give Up!

When people stop believing in the things you want to achieve that is not the time to stop.

The time to stop is when you have no breathe in you to give anything more.

Until then keep trying and keep going there is someone out there who needs to hear what you have to say and engage with it. Make new connections and fulfil that purpose. You may lose supporters but don’t give in or give up on yourself. Dust yourself off and pick up where you left of. Sometimes you will need to change your strategies and make it happen differently to how you expected. There is still more work to do.

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Mr Vito Presents: Stay Up – Isaac Artist X Mr Vito

I recently had the chance to step in a great studio with a friend Isaac Artist. I would love you to send this track to all your people and let them know that Music crosses boundaries of Language. I had so much fun recording this song and I hope you enjoy what what we did with it. PLENTY MORE TO COME!

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Leadership Notes: The Most Noise Doesnt Equal The Most Change

It is a general popular error to suppose the loudest complainers for the public to be the most anxious for its welfare.

Edmund Burke

When I came across this quote it struck a chord within me that I thought I should share.

Sometimes people make noise without actually mobilising their convictions and because they are gifted they lead people into thinking theres a movement meanwhile they are only making noise(Creating a Distraction from their own woes). The illusion of noise(Creating a Distraction) is more serious than people think. It is so strong it distracts the focus from those who are actually striving to cause change. As a consumer Where does your support go? Does it go to those who are loud and buoyant for the sake of it or to those are implementing change? Imagine what a difference it would make if we put our support in the right place. Our generations are so full of so many unsung heroes because as a society we give priority to Noise(Created Distractions) rather than truth.

Perhaps this is problem Change Makers mostly face, perhaps

“Well Organised Noise feels better than Not so organised change”.

The first element is that change makers in order to be noticed need to take their presentation more seriously than ever before. Poor presentation sometimes clouds the judgement of the consumer and erodes trust.

The second element being that sometimes human beings would rather be distracted by a puppet master and his array of entertaining contributions than awoken to the reality of their own personal responsibility to make meaningful contributions. Unfortunately there are not many ways to make responsibility fun(foolishly exciting) except training people to see the benefits of being responsible.

For example we celebrate and are constantly entertained by musicians and artists who have risen and profited fromtelling their stories in mostly harmful ways and the stories of the suffering masses but how many of them encourage true honest entrepreneurship or personal development beyond perfecting their artistic perversion? How many of them call on you to make better decisions than they have made. Most probably know that to suggest you change could mean they lose your custom reducing their financial bragging rights. So how about they encourage the fool in you and use your money to live smart.

Ironically because they voice our pain or blatantly abuse it both of which strike a deep chord in the heart of the hearers they get the accolades as though there are no people who actualise change. How many of them really put you and I in a better position to actualise the dream we carry?

Other examples include, those people who campaign for women to change their ways meanwhile they themselves take advantage of the same women they are trying to save, or the guru whose message is true for everyone but is a stumbling block to himself/herself. Realistically speaking a great many of us will be trapped in the slumber of our entertainment.

Call it a far fetched dream or a deeper search for significance but Im pushing on to the day that those who actually mobilise change will be celebrated correctly even as they better present the change they propose.

The masses may not do it immediately, but who said you need masses to cause change?

Dont forget to pick up the new book written by myself and Lola Vito.

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Leadership Notes: Escape Plan

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Are you actively making efforts to live and survive in a negative situation/relationship/workplace and its putting you in emotional, physical, financial, spiritual and mental mess?
Has your situation brought you to promotion or dysfunction?

Perhaps its time you have to be brave enough to escape that situation by packing your belongings and leaving.

There are some things one cannot conquer until one has left the environment in which those issues are fostered.- Martin Vito

Try living a fufilling wholesome lifestyle in sodom and gomorrah.. 👀.. friend you may very well be forced to make some quick decisions when the time comes to escape. Whilst escaping Just remember that some situations are the way they are because we chose without foresight.

#EscapePlanForLiberty

Dont forget make sure you order your copy of my wife and I’s first book

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Leadership Notes: Influence and Attacks from Glory Hunters

Just realised I was one of those guys who never got picked for the 1st team 👀! loooool.

Disheartening I know but useful. Not being picked first always allowed me to see where people put their respect. It helped me to understand structure and ranking.

On the other hand not being picked for the first team felt somehow, like people couldnt trust me to deliver, majorly because they knew nothing about what I could do neither did they want to know. So in true false humility I hid behind what I thought was “Team” at that time. What I didnt realise is that I was neglecting my opportunity to be seen by always waiting for someone to finally pick me. I now know more than ever that I had to become a captain of my own team. I built up an awareness of encouragement and utilised even the little affirmation I recieved from those who cared including one of my amazing mentor Ms Edith Adesioye (CEO of Rehoboth Syndicate Consultancy). Acknowledging that I was no longer the victim of someone elses selfishness put me in better postion to deliver my goods.

The truth is we all want to be known for what we can do and what we can contribute however in our silence sometimes we are overshadowed by the Vanity of Glory hunters(People who live off your hard work and cut off your recognition) which overtakes our visibility.
Glory Hunters are usually a hinderance to your progress if you permit them consistent access to depreciate your personal values and peer pressure you into the corner of silence. They hunt for the credit on your effort and they go after the seed of your consistency.

I assure you, you must keep doing what you do and get wiser with your application of loyalty, why be loyal to people who are just present instead of people who PRESENT YOU? Glory hunters get tired especially when important work needs to get done and run out of steam when you the one full of “glory” divert your attention to the important people.
At which point what you were in secret becomes highly visible. Whatever happens dont stop chugging along and strengthening the value systems that got you to where you and keep you going. Remember this, Glory Hunters will will always be present when some form of success comes but dont depend on them for the fuel to achieve more.

When you decide to be the captain of your team make sure you dont have glory hunters in your midst.

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Man Thoughts: Real Class has nothing to do with Thine Breast and Thine Ass

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Class has nothing to do with thine Breast and thine Ass
Demand something more of yourself from the depths of your soul
Something valuable that outlasts your lumps and your bumps
Something deeper that goes past the depths of your peaks
Its somewhere in there, hidden beneath your hair
Its somewhere in there, hidden beneath the filters on the photos you share

I wish I could see more of you and not your mutiple views of your figure
I know you think your looks attract me
But sometimes if not most times your looks attack me.
I cannot even appreciate the goodness in you
When I only see that dress is barely even on you.

You would rather get skint trying to show me your skin
You would rather be fair skinned than be fair to your skin.
If my love as a man is not for sale
Why is yours forever on discount even when there is no sale.
I wish you would value YOU more than I do
Because if you did I would learn to love the woman
more as a woman
And not an Idol.
Your eyes look like a dolls and it seems
Your only prize is your hair and your clothes

In all honesty where do I fit in?
If you are only obsessed with being a sex kitten.
My dreams, ambitions cannot fit between your legs
I need them to enter into and be repeated through the holes
In and around your head.

Just remember as you walk around your own ego
Class has nothing to do with thine breast and thine ass

©Martin Vito 2014
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Leadership Notes: Reflection And New Thinking

I sincerely hope that my thoughts find you strong and well. As we wrap up 2013 I just want to thank everyone who was a part of my personal developmental process. Admittedly it is not easy to just share ones thoughts especially when they go against the grain of people you may still be talking to and engaging with on a regular basis. Anyway I share because I care, it is what it is.

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Over time I have come to find that if you have a voice, you should speak and in doing so be prepared to accept whatever comes with that voice being heard and that includes the perks and the set backs. In 2013 I encountered so many interesting people who have some great views as well as some with not so great views in relation to mine. I learnt something from all of them and I sincerely hope that they have learnt something from me.

Ironically when we think of our personal development and its implications we rarely look at its impact on others. People who are self focused assume that personal development is all about “Me, Myself, And I” but really the best benefits are usually received by the people right next to you. A better me means that I give better advice to those in need of it, a better me means I see less of myself and more of the amazingness of the people around me. A better me means I trust people with the things that I discern they can handle rather than just what they say with their mouths.

In reflection there is very little I would do differently in 2013. I have made mistakes most especially mistakes unique to my Purpose and my desire to help others.

2014 is that time to improve as I realise what needs to be changed rather than waiting for time to go by before I look closer.

3 Things To do differently In 2014…

1) Stop assuming that just because someone has nodded their head in agreement to something you said it means that they are on the same boat as you concerning all other thoughts around the subject. Its likely that truth is as fleeting as a phone call or whatsapp broadcast. (They never take it seriously unless theres something tangeble in it for them)
“The truth looks good in the time of seeking but its very difficult to maintain in the time of testing”
When you share with someone something that you have discovered to be true over time and they seem on your side but when they are tested on that conviction they crumble and give all the excuses as to why its not such a big deal then perhaps you were never really in agreement. Please get it now. In the absence of agreement even the truth we agreed on can and will become our biggest source of dispute.

2) Leaving important decisions to indecisive people.
In dealing with people you will notice traits that destroy that persons well being as well as yours. When you forsake your convictions because someone is yet to decide which side they are on through their conduct, you subconsciously slow yourself down from progressive development.
You become an accessory to their indecisions.

“Indecision is an enemy to who you are going to be if you already know what you are doing.” Martin Vito

3) Put your hands up when you have tried your best to help and it has been rejected. I am in no way encouraging you to give up on “People” but I am encouraging you to give up on the messy situations in your life that pertain to someone else’s shortcomings most especially when they are not willing work with you. I believe in investing in people but I do not believe in allowing your time to be consumed by wild goose chases.

a) Its a wild goose chase when your contributions are taken with negligence.
b) Its a wild goose chase when your words and actions match up but they still dont believe you have integrity.
c) Its a wild goose chase when you Love them but they dont expect some heat for inconsistency.

Helping a friend is a good thing, but helping a friend and foresaking destiny well thats just dumb. So forgive me if it idoesnt seem like Im interested in chasing someone trying to hide.

That being said Im very much looking forward to speaking at length with those who want to be helped beyond the consmetic level of transformation. Matters of the heart are not taken lightly when they affect your destiny.

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So much more good to come for those who seek answers without reservation.

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Relationship Notes: Rose Tinted Glasses(VLog)

Have you ever wondered the reasons behind some of our worst dating disasters?
Are you tired of making the same mistakes over and over again?

Both my lovely wife and I have been in situations we could have more or less avoided had we taken just a little more time to think things through and become a bit more whole hearted about what we wanted from a relationship.

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In this Video we discuss some of the reasons people often stumble into disaster when it comes to dating and we both offer some personal insights into how we can become better at selecting a partner we can be with for a life time.

Theres nothing like a little honesty to get you thinking.
JUST PRESS PLAY

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Relationship Short Notes : – Women & Compromise

Are you sure that the guy you’re with Loves you? Or did you fall for the Magician? A man who presents love in a magikal way but can’t keep up the illusion when you’re having an argument or dispute over his last telephone conversation with a girl who makes you feel insecure just by the way she looks at you. He’s fine with it and you consistently play along with the tricks because of the fact that he touches you in places preserved for a king worthy of that hormone. You give in every time he leans in and left up to you would even make up excuses for him to cover up the flaws in his trickery. It’s amazing how a woman can be tricked into accepting the abuse as a form of love. What you should do is maybe ask her where the compromise began.

What did her Dad say when she was 3 years old, 6 years old, or even 8? Was he ever there for her prior to her hormones exploding into romance and fantasy? If she has compromised herself again and again he probably wasn’t there and in a bid to stay irresponsible he stayed away during her teenage fluctuations of Pride, Anger and Rebellion or in some deeply unfortunate cases he was taken away by death. He wasn’t and in some cases couldn’t be there to disciple her passions into a young woman ready to receive love but more by his absence or absent mindedness made her ready to be manipulated into a false sense of physical attraction and emotional security. For so long she has sought to impress the wrong men. She abandoned all her moral values and mocks those who even try to keep themselves but deep down we all know she craves to be elevated by love and not Lust. She can only act out of Lust because that’s what she knows but what if she received Love for longer, would she see through the tricks of magicians before they even came to her stage? Perhaps…

If you are the woman described in this piece perhaps it’s time to look for help and deal with your compromise the right way..

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Relationship Short Notes :- Real Love Looks Like WORK

Here’s the thing…
Why do us men always expect a ready made woman? If she’s ready made you will have no chance of teaching her. Shouldn’t we be seeking knowledge to bring the best out of our women? Most men only know how to use and abandon the women they CLAIM to love. We love her the way she is but we are not prepared to stick it out and see what she will become… I know women who have gone on to be amazing without the man that trashed them initially but it really shouldn’t be that way. Men who abandon the woman they started a fire and a vision with leave good women with scars and fatherless children. These types of men think like children..they consider women to be disposable toys that they have outgrown. Every man needs to put away childish things but honestly speaking it should never be at the expense of a good woman. If you are determined to be a mature version of yourself… Man Up and don’t abandon the beautiful woman you are responsible for.

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The truth is REAL LOVE looks like WORK but if you’re smart you can make a woman a masterpiece rather than turning her into left overs. She deserves to be cherished, elevated and spoken highly of because of you. Real Love doesn’t start with money and all expense paid trips to emptiness…. It starts with the desire in a man to see the woman in his life become the very best of what Life has invited her to accomplish which ultimately will be a Sub of your mission as a man. If as a man you stick around long enough you may leave a legacy worth admiring.

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