4 Types Of Fools You Keep Dating

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Ladies Ladies Ladies! This one’s for  you and all the good guys in this world, I need to ask you this pressing question. Who the hec are you dating, mating and giving in to your temptations with?  It’s a pressing thing for me right now to dare to ask who exactly you are letting into your hearts,  minds and bodies. Not one of you should be dating, mating, engaging or even marrying a fool unless you of course are a fool all on your own.

For clarities sake let me show you 4 types of fools you’re leaving yourself open to and how its affecting your value  and potential future with a good man.

1) The first fool is the person who acts unwisely or imprudently; a silly person.

You know what I understand that girls like guys who don’t always take themselves seriously you know the comedic types but some ladies cant tell the difference between humor and immaturity because it all seems funny until of course you need this guy to be  a solid rock of some kind. Every man should strive to possess a quality like humor that can bring joy but I think when the joy becomes void of any meaningful progression then its questionable. This type of fool shouldn’t even be given a second date let alone access to your pound cake. Unfortunately he does because you are sort of struggling with accepting that you are indeed worth more than this  so silly is acceptable until it hurts the one accommodating it.

2) The second fool is someone capable of doing a skilful act performed just for your entertainment or amusement.

This kind of fool mesmerises you with his abilities, sort of peacocking his strengths like being devoted to his faith but when it comes to his day to day living he is incapable of holding a decent conversation that doesn’t hinge on a bible verse, I’m not talking about the man who backs his faith with action. Im talking about the man who knows more Bible Verses than you but wont put his life together. BesidedNo matter how much he knows it never brings about a conviction about your own personal change. He is only in your life because of what he can do but not because of who he can be.  Men like this seldom change their focus to build in themselves character to back their deepest convictions let alone act on them. Instead they continually seek to keep your attention with tricks like monkeys do just to get the treat of spending time with you,  be it on the phone, in church,  which will only cause you to yield to calculated advances not just of a sexual nature but even marriage and suddenly you’re tied down because this man was available and so were you.
His character deficiencies mean you will only progress to the degree of his personal development which is at level 0 last time you checked but you accept because well he is skilled Right?

3) The third fool is the guy you like and find attractive because it always feels like youre both trying to Cunningly deceive or outwit each other in everything.

Yes this man makes you strip down to your bare essentials in what many of your friends see as a humiliating relation that has no ship  just sex and wits.  Nobody can get you out of this except yourself! Even I wont tell you to break up with him because this is as much about your foolish self as it is about the fool youre choosing to let back in just for the thrill of the fake love, the sexting, the rendezvous and the feeling that where you are is heaven meanwhile its a card board box in a brothel that needs to be folded up and burned in hell. So you keep fooling yourself with that mirage and race towards stds, pregnancies & more manipulation.

4) This last fool is harder to spot but the truth is he is liable to fail; and like a man without proper guidance in life he is defective.

This fool will promise you the world with him as King, ideals with no well thought action plans,  flukes with no evidence of training,  illusions that make even the most skeptic girl give him many chances to prove himself. The kind of guy whom when you ask about the future is even skeptical an about the next day. Hes always trying something new but never has something more than that to do. His programmed to get money but wont spend a dime on you but because you think you see the truth you have made him king even over what is yours but he will never make you queen over anything in his power.
The same man will want all of you but give you none of himself. He knows your fears but your own voice never makes a difference to his ear.  He cant be heard speaking the truth in love but he always shouting the lie in broad day light. The sort of fool i would encourage you to avoid dating because he could cost you your destiny and if left to continue could cost you your life.

Ladies Please Don’t Let these Fools In.
Save it all for a man who will make it easy for you to approach his throne gracefully with your dreams, future  and will see to it that you’re set on a path to making a lasting legacy happen.

Have a good day.

@MrVitoSpeaks

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Bad Friends and Bad Vibes

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When you look at the world we live in and the hard times we encountered in our childhood you will find that with brokenness of the heart comes a strong desire to arise in and wield power. This kind of power we want is for a strong sense of control and self esteem.. What happens when a broken person seeks to wield unhealthy forms of power on you..
Today I want to speak to those of us who keep friends who are manipulators..

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics. By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at ANOTHER’S EXPENSE, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious and deceptive. Social influence is not necessarily negative.

When your friends become your manipulators there is a problem bigger than you on it’s way. A real friend will tell you.. “Watch out for that problem… This is for your benefit” a manipulator will keep their mouth shut and hope you don’t make it.. But how do we know we are being manipulated..?
Maybe the key is to unlock the conversation on what characteristic makes us vulnerable to being manipulated.

Do you suffer from the following?
1) The “disease to please” : Are you always looking for the perfect way to please others to the extent that you run yourself into the ground and destroy yourself and other good people in the process…? You may be stuck in an emotional cycle that is ruining you and making you susceptible to manipulation. In fact you are great candidate for manipulation.

2) Do you suffer from an Addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others?
Do you consider yourself at the bottom and always trying to get to the top by beating your friends? Well it is likely you can be a victim of manipulation by those you place first on the stage of your life..it’s highly likely you will choose pretentious people over genuine ones..
You have to grow smart enough to know that true elevation does not happen through addiction to anything..in fact depression is usually the result. It’s time to turn a new leaf and find friends who want to see you progress..

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3) Do you suffer from, Emotophobia (fear of negative emotion; i.e. a fear of expressing anger, frustration or disapproval) Yep you too could be the victim of manipulation from dangerous friends. There is this general consensus that you never get angry about anything but you and I both know that is a lie.. You do get angry but you bottle it up and unleash that anger on the unsuspecting. You may very well become the manipulator if you are not careful..learn to express exactly how you feel and even as you pour out be mindful of everything you’re pouring.

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4) Do you lack of assertiveness and ability to say no?
Again you too are vulnerable to experience manipulation. As my mentor once said you “people” in this case the manipulators will use you and use you and use until you can’t be used anymore. You know they are dangerous because they get real mad when you can’t help them anymore. First it’s their disappointment then the manipulation intensifies…

5) Do you feel you have a blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries)?
Well you will inevitably be manipulated..
“never stop doing good deeds but always remember that even goodness has self control” let every good deed be a decision not an under handed coercion by someone who wants what you are…

If you already know your manipulators and think that they are up to no good it’s time to walk free of their mental remote controls.. Learn to say no and ask questions when you don’t understand them. Don’t be a slave but be conscious of your service to them.. Endeavour to stay sober and its likely you will catch manipulators out but if you fall for their charms and wits you may very well end up weeping..

All that being said

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All things said with Love and Respect
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