Head and Heart 

When people say stuff like “I really want to find the person to have and to hold for the rest of my life but on the inside they are saying, these hoes aint loyal.” I cannot blame them, their desires are mixing with the genuine fears of a generation that is so well sex trained that it is almost completely Love broke. They are looking for and expecting people who are not in a position to be loyal to become their most trusted Lover. #FIXYOURLIFE #HowSway!?

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You my friend may be suffering from a grand delusion that will keep you running around in circles. Here you are saying you want a Virtuous woman but your secret relationship with porn and hoes clouds your judgement about the kind of things you should really be asking of a truly virtuous woman.

You know there are guys who may admit they want respect and love but when they are in a position to gain exactly that they instead of walking the safe route of maturity they start trying to figure out how they can take advantage of the availability of a virtuous woman.

They ask and seek for sexual gratification and in so doing they lose sight of what they originally approached her for if they had any noble intentions to begin with. You went to a virtuous woman demanding she behave like the the hoes that are not loyal!!? Are you alright? Why do you wish to compromise her virtue with your 50 shades of grey that lead to her loosing her confidence trying to keep up with you.

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What about the girls who constantly want attention via social media, go to “church” but be actively SEXTING guys in a bid to appease their own lusts and desire for attention but would gladly quote a religious text in their online bio’s or worse its the same girl that will retweet a picture/video, meme of someone in a sexually compromising position pretty much polluting even the most innocent eye? The same girl then complains/retweets/rants about the shortage of good men!!! #SHUTUP. If its real virtue you have then you should stop with the siren behaviour, be yourself and conduct yourself in the way you wouldnt mind your Father finding you.

 

I dare you to stop getting on your knees for the wrong reasons and for the wrong people. At this rate permit me to make you are aware that there are two types of kneeling that a person can to do on a frequent basis, one leads to blessings and elevation and the other leads to humiliation and if you are even more unlucky it will be on social media.

 

Stop asking for good things when you don’t intend to be good enough to maintain and treasure them especially people. – @MrVitoSpeaks

To be fair there is a shortage of actual good men for you to ruin because these men don’t think with their penis, they think with their rational head and purposeful heart. Are these men in denial of their sexual urges? Absolutely not! In fact they are so in touch that a virtuous woman commits to life with him she will feel the love during the first night and beyond it (Okay may be not the first night 🙂 ).

As much as I wish that this type of sexual seduction from seemingly genuine people could stop I doubt it will but  I would like to make a call to all the ‘Virtuous Women and Faithful Men’ out there that its time to understand that you could actually be with someone you can love and cherish but if youre out here living in the half way house where you make genuine requests to be with virtue but are always obsessed over compromised people you are delaying and prolonging in many ways your eligibility to the mature men and women because of cheap but very costly gimics.

Imagine so many pure intentioned people mixing their Visions and Purposes with lust instead of love, with humiliation instead of humility, with Thots insteads Good Thoughts, with Subservience instead of healthy Submission.

Yes! you are are right this is indeed the world we live in but there is no where, where it is written in stone that you must continue to live like this to find what/who you are truly asking for.

Have a good day

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Man Thoughts: The Integrity of My People

“My integrity will take me a long way.
But our integrity will lift us out of the Miry Clay of Corruption.”- Martin Vito

If you are someone who walks in integrity, I urge you persist on that path. There is plenty of light in that kind of tunnel. The first light is you and the second is the people that you choose to walk, talk and do business with. Diaspora Africans have a challenge on their hands when it comes to believing in and supporting one another. Due to reasons owing to the economic climate we are forced to constantly surf over the depth of our personal and collective insecurities when it comes to matters of trust. We fear back stabbers, gold diggers, oppportunists, frienemies and adulterers in various forms. Sometimes it seems we would rather fear them or become them. In reality we have to confront them.

We cannot even speak long enough about our social ills before someone starts showing off about their personal achievements and attainments that only conclude on the note of personal glory. In that personal story no one else is included, no flag can be raised and no true honour can be awarded because our efforts are for selfish gain and not collective establishment of a decent vantage point. Our brand of teamwork is constantly laced with selfish ambition. The corruptions of the few become the corruptions of the many when we say nothing.

Our Family structures are riddled with secrets of things no one ever talks about. When will we ask ourselves the deeper questions about where we came from and whats resident in our DNA? Is my selfish ambition, emotional dysfunction, sexual addiction, impenetrable pride, pornographic desire a condition imposed on me by the nation I am in or a descendant of my “unknown” ancestors? If it is a combination of the two then I must weed out what is in me and spread the message of that clearance.

At some stage someone will have to ask the pertinent question about personal Family History before they ask us about National History. Secondary to that question should be where does my Family sit in connection to the history of my nation of origin.

The answers to these very two questions will start an avalanche of drive and courage to correct the wrongs passed on through ignorance and write the story that best reflects a heart sobered by deep discovery.

©Martin Vito 2014
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Relationship Notes:- Thoughts about My Mrs

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If my wife could rap bars that would be a shambles..
But my wife speaks words of wisdom just check her twitter handles

We belong together like a tweet and a hash tag
To me shes more attractive than the sexiest girl
in a black dress with black heels and a black bag

More Money isn’t everything, she reminds me Im a boss
When I clocked I was a King and she was the Queen
I was prepared to pay the cost

Daily I Grow with her by my side,
And so we Live like we on the otherside
I Love her with the Love of Christ

I will continue to show her more reasons why
I am the right guy, By Loving her with the right mind

Her respect in my life is a bright light that defines
Little wonder people like me always sound like a star who Just saw a sign.

In reality, my wife Mrs Lola Vito is an inspiration to a lot of my present actions. She inspires me and others in the most interesting ways. Shes a woman of quality words and quality actions. She seeks to help me and others whenever needed. She is the woman that saw me where I was and sees me for the man that I am now and the man that I need to be.

To my brothers I wish many more of you would find or at least accept some help on to keep a good woman. Hey with your permission I will some day sit you down and encourage you to be the right man for a good woman.

A GOOD WOMAN DOESNT just LOOK GOOD but she IS GOOD. She knows her worth and keeps her eyes on the truth behind everything. She is not in love with just the idea of marriage she actually respects the man shes married to. She is growing up in perfection(Mature application of her greatest virtues and is in constant awareness of the grace available for her greatest weaknesses). She like any woman ready for a greater life becomes uncomfortable with changes she needs to make but before long she becomes the change that she wants to see. Lola has earned her place in my life without compromises but through consistency and standing for the right things.

IN REFLECTION
All men look at women but very few men even know who they are looking for. Very few men are honest with themselves let alone with the women they look at.

People keep asking Where are all the good men gone? Probably under a mountain of issues brought on by compromise, pride, pleasure, side chicks and some because they dont have the money to appear like he wants to the woman of his “wet dreams”.

Where are all the good women gone? Somewhere making money, spending money beneath the compromise of habitually dating unworthy men whilst searching for someone who they “DO NOT KNOW 🙈” and most times cannot see. Too many “good women” are stuck mistaking fools(careless men) for kings(Lovers and leaders) and too many “kings” are turning side chicks into housewives.

I hope in your search for Love you will learn to avoid the pitfalls that come with experimentation and impulse. You have my support at your disposal and dont be shy to ask the questions you need to.

‘Remember Valentines is A Day, Love is a Lifestyle’

@MrVitoSpeaks

Man Thoughts: Real Class has nothing to do with Thine Breast and Thine Ass

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Class has nothing to do with thine Breast and thine Ass
Demand something more of yourself from the depths of your soul
Something valuable that outlasts your lumps and your bumps
Something deeper that goes past the depths of your peaks
Its somewhere in there, hidden beneath your hair
Its somewhere in there, hidden beneath the filters on the photos you share

I wish I could see more of you and not your mutiple views of your figure
I know you think your looks attract me
But sometimes if not most times your looks attack me.
I cannot even appreciate the goodness in you
When I only see that dress is barely even on you.

You would rather get skint trying to show me your skin
You would rather be fair skinned than be fair to your skin.
If my love as a man is not for sale
Why is yours forever on discount even when there is no sale.
I wish you would value YOU more than I do
Because if you did I would learn to love the woman
more as a woman
And not an Idol.
Your eyes look like a dolls and it seems
Your only prize is your hair and your clothes

In all honesty where do I fit in?
If you are only obsessed with being a sex kitten.
My dreams, ambitions cannot fit between your legs
I need them to enter into and be repeated through the holes
In and around your head.

Just remember as you walk around your own ego
Class has nothing to do with thine breast and thine ass

©Martin Vito 2014
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Relationship Notes: Rose Tinted Glasses(VLog)

Have you ever wondered the reasons behind some of our worst dating disasters?
Are you tired of making the same mistakes over and over again?

Both my lovely wife and I have been in situations we could have more or less avoided had we taken just a little more time to think things through and become a bit more whole hearted about what we wanted from a relationship.

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In this Video we discuss some of the reasons people often stumble into disaster when it comes to dating and we both offer some personal insights into how we can become better at selecting a partner we can be with for a life time.

Theres nothing like a little honesty to get you thinking.
JUST PRESS PLAY

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Relationship Short Notes :- Friends With Benefits

When people hear the word friendship it is safe to assume they are talking about this…

Affection, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend.

It’s amazing how many people will cross this boundary to seek their personal sexual satisfaction. A man/woman can will peruse sexual benefits without any form of commitment most especially when they have no sense of purpose or self control. Be mindful of who you call “friend”. If you have ever been in a “Friends With Benefits Situation” you will know that it doesn’t take long before one of you starts to feel feelings beyond the purpose of the friendship. If you are the commitment type then you know this is not the best situation for you, in fact it’s just not good for anyone really…

Sex is more powerful than your personal power to suppress or be in denial. It is a tool which when used by the immature, naive or controlling people can cause irreparable damage to what could have been a functional, healthy and mutually elevating friendship. You should know that once you cross the line of friendship and have a sexual encounter with someone you like just “hanging” around with you are no longer “Friends” you are sexual partners… And yes it’s true once you give up that part of yourself to them you’re either going to want walk into love or walk out of total friendship with that individual. If both parties are functioning of sexual excitement someone’s going to get hurt.

There is no middle ground after self compromise & mutual compromise. Some people have “Friends with Sexual Benefits” as their standard of friendship. Real Friendship ascribes a sense of purpose and mutual growth between individuals but sexual encounters serve as an unnecessary bridge to emotional confusion. #RealTalk in that situation there are ropes involved! You can’t be sleeping with someone you call friend unless you’re married to them (ITS JUST SMART). Immature friends who are interested in using and abusing you for sex will work so hard to please your body but by now should know that they take the Love of the innocent quite frequently. When will your “Self Harm” stop?

The man who befriends women for sexual favours is not a friend but can be labelled as a sexual predator…He grooms vulnerable women and even men into a false sense of security and openness with the view that he can further take advantage of whatever essence those men/women have. Some women feel a strong loss of self esteem when they encounter certain guys because the agenda is not mutually favoured. The woman who befriends men/women for sexual reasons is also a sexual predator.. She is the woman with the sweetest lips full of “Lust” subtle “Perversion” and when she sees your inner tears/fears she promises that sex will fix your bleeding and she makes you taste what will never fit in a Purpose filled friendship. These kind of men and women cannot function without a sexual fix. Their personal failure to admit this to you from the beginning is what should prevent you from giving in to their suggestions. If you are a man or a woman practicing this kind of behaviour either change or look for the woman/woman who will put up with that👹. For so long you have taken advantage of the vulnerable then you will continue to hear me advise them against “Loving” You. I speak passionately on their behalf and aye! Enough is enough. If all else fails try being a genuine friend and this kind of behaviour is less likely to happen.

When sex is involved without “Commitment”💍 that is a compromise any purposeful friendship cannot afford…No matter how much we may want to make things work for us in these foundation less & broken situations. It may be smart to break away from any friendship that promotes sexual ties without “Commitment”💍.

This advice will only work for you if you decide to do away with the with sexual benefits. Oh and by the way…

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Relationship Short Notes : – Women & Compromise

Are you sure that the guy you’re with Loves you? Or did you fall for the Magician? A man who presents love in a magikal way but can’t keep up the illusion when you’re having an argument or dispute over his last telephone conversation with a girl who makes you feel insecure just by the way she looks at you. He’s fine with it and you consistently play along with the tricks because of the fact that he touches you in places preserved for a king worthy of that hormone. You give in every time he leans in and left up to you would even make up excuses for him to cover up the flaws in his trickery. It’s amazing how a woman can be tricked into accepting the abuse as a form of love. What you should do is maybe ask her where the compromise began.

What did her Dad say when she was 3 years old, 6 years old, or even 8? Was he ever there for her prior to her hormones exploding into romance and fantasy? If she has compromised herself again and again he probably wasn’t there and in a bid to stay irresponsible he stayed away during her teenage fluctuations of Pride, Anger and Rebellion or in some deeply unfortunate cases he was taken away by death. He wasn’t and in some cases couldn’t be there to disciple her passions into a young woman ready to receive love but more by his absence or absent mindedness made her ready to be manipulated into a false sense of physical attraction and emotional security. For so long she has sought to impress the wrong men. She abandoned all her moral values and mocks those who even try to keep themselves but deep down we all know she craves to be elevated by love and not Lust. She can only act out of Lust because that’s what she knows but what if she received Love for longer, would she see through the tricks of magicians before they even came to her stage? Perhaps…

If you are the woman described in this piece perhaps it’s time to look for help and deal with your compromise the right way..

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Relationship Short Notes :- Sex and The Man

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The truth is some of us need to be smarter with where our impulses lead us. The Lower half of your body is a treasure you have to take care of with a discerning mind. Your sexual expression is a gift that you can preserve for your good until marriage and in marriage. It can also be used for the downfall of yourself and the person you supposedly care about. Find me a man who is steering away from sleeping with multiple women and searching for a wife and I will show you a man worthy of honour and respect. Why would a boy be considered a man when cannot not put childish things away? Surely at some point EVERYMAN has to put his sexual health first and his heart right by seeking some help to redefine himself because up until then multiple partners have fragmented his soul into a black hole of uncertainty and indecision.

Your lower half is a treasure you must protect not with a condom but with your mind. For once in your life consider how sleeping around affects your bigger picture. If sleeping around doesn’t distort or ruin your bigger picture then maybe you need to expand your canvas…

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Relationship Short Notes :- Real Love Looks Like WORK

Here’s the thing…
Why do us men always expect a ready made woman? If she’s ready made you will have no chance of teaching her. Shouldn’t we be seeking knowledge to bring the best out of our women? Most men only know how to use and abandon the women they CLAIM to love. We love her the way she is but we are not prepared to stick it out and see what she will become… I know women who have gone on to be amazing without the man that trashed them initially but it really shouldn’t be that way. Men who abandon the woman they started a fire and a vision with leave good women with scars and fatherless children. These types of men think like children..they consider women to be disposable toys that they have outgrown. Every man needs to put away childish things but honestly speaking it should never be at the expense of a good woman. If you are determined to be a mature version of yourself… Man Up and don’t abandon the beautiful woman you are responsible for.

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The truth is REAL LOVE looks like WORK but if you’re smart you can make a woman a masterpiece rather than turning her into left overs. She deserves to be cherished, elevated and spoken highly of because of you. Real Love doesn’t start with money and all expense paid trips to emptiness…. It starts with the desire in a man to see the woman in his life become the very best of what Life has invited her to accomplish which ultimately will be a Sub of your mission as a man. If as a man you stick around long enough you may leave a legacy worth admiring.

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Relationship Short Notes :- Your Eyes

Are you the kind of person who just goes for whatever and whoever you want? Are you the person who regardless of the circumstances will approach a man/woman or plot to have a man/woman without restraint? If all this while you have made moves like this and it has ended up in your unhappiness. It may be time to change your heart on certain things. Too many people think that manipulating circumstances and people most especially the opposite sex is something that has no consequence. Don’t let this assumption make you careless. Your Lusts can and will lead you to someone worse off in heart than you think….

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