Man Thoughts: The Integrity of My People

“My integrity will take me a long way.
But our integrity will lift us out of the Miry Clay of Corruption.”- Martin Vito

If you are someone who walks in integrity, I urge you persist on that path. There is plenty of light in that kind of tunnel. The first light is you and the second is the people that you choose to walk, talk and do business with. Diaspora Africans have a challenge on their hands when it comes to believing in and supporting one another. Due to reasons owing to the economic climate we are forced to constantly surf over the depth of our personal and collective insecurities when it comes to matters of trust. We fear back stabbers, gold diggers, oppportunists, frienemies and adulterers in various forms. Sometimes it seems we would rather fear them or become them. In reality we have to confront them.

We cannot even speak long enough about our social ills before someone starts showing off about their personal achievements and attainments that only conclude on the note of personal glory. In that personal story no one else is included, no flag can be raised and no true honour can be awarded because our efforts are for selfish gain and not collective establishment of a decent vantage point. Our brand of teamwork is constantly laced with selfish ambition. The corruptions of the few become the corruptions of the many when we say nothing.

Our Family structures are riddled with secrets of things no one ever talks about. When will we ask ourselves the deeper questions about where we came from and whats resident in our DNA? Is my selfish ambition, emotional dysfunction, sexual addiction, impenetrable pride, pornographic desire a condition imposed on me by the nation I am in or a descendant of my “unknown” ancestors? If it is a combination of the two then I must weed out what is in me and spread the message of that clearance.

At some stage someone will have to ask the pertinent question about personal Family History before they ask us about National History. Secondary to that question should be where does my Family sit in connection to the history of my nation of origin.

The answers to these very two questions will start an avalanche of drive and courage to correct the wrongs passed on through ignorance and write the story that best reflects a heart sobered by deep discovery.

©Martin Vito 2014
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5 Things That Can Break A Man

5 Things That Can Break a Man

Every man has the opportunity and choice to live a life worth noting or taking notes from. Most of us prefer to learn from things that make people successful but we constantly over look the things that make men fail. Everything we consider to be Success is subject to personal opinion and perception but here is the thing, few men know the things that will tear down their success should they attain it because people don’t always emphasis the character necessary to keep it. Here is a list of things that that have been found to kill, steal or destroy your success.

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1) Frequently Lusting for lots of women and refusing to commit to the right woman. When a man is not settled on the kind of woman he will be with for the rest of his life it is highly likely that he will experiment with many women in order to fill the gap. The absence of a good woman or the silence of a good woman or even harming good women, can have a detrimental effect on a mans mindset. Most times you don’t know what’s broken until you actually become faithful. A lustful life may be self justified in your eyes until you’re looking for a more dependable relationship.

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2) Putting your Integrity up for sale:- Its more than a physical offer. For a man to drop his guard, most times the promise of prestige, respect, riches& women can be a mans downfall. Men crave respect and anything that brings it quickly, they would willingly trade they’re integrity for. How often do men sell their integrity for that” 15mins of Fame” “Or one Night with that girl”, the effects of which can last for years but inwardly tear their psyche apart. Most never realise that they have subconsciously sold their soul, until Everything is gone. Remember without integrity,
(The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.) Any success you have over yourself can be snatched away in a moment. With all your endeavors and aspirations always keep integrity close, protect your heart as a man and keep your honor. It is your greatest treasure
That is MANHOOD

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3) Indecision: A man undecided is a man compromised. A man compromised is a dangerous man to be around. If you have ever hung around indecisive men you will know that the lack of decision concerning anything can make or break the respect you have for them. Left to “indecision” men will drown and never overcome anything in their lives.A successful man who arrives at a junction in his life and refuses to make a forward thinking decision will be the victim of unforeseen trouble. If you don’t know what you’re going to do next always revisit your initial goals and adjust as necessary. With no goals or personal development “Indecision” can spell the end of your life before its time…

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4) Adulterating Yourself
“Render (something) poorer in quality by adding another substance, typically an inferior one.” Most men know when they are mixing themselves with something less than the right standard but unless something drastic happens, like loosing your marriage, loosing your business, loosing your house, loosing your children, you don’t do anything to stop. It could be bad friendships, bad relationships or even unforgiveness. Keeping yourself clear of adulteration is really an act of discernment on a mans part. Consistent failure to do this usually leaves room for “evil” in it’s most alluring forms to enter and snatch away the purity of your conscience and contaminate your heart.

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5) Poor Reactions in relation to (Self Control)
Poor reactions in important situations can mean the break down of a man.
Life always presents situations to us where we are to react in order to protect, or counter, or reverse or even change entire circumstances but a poor reaction can really be a life and death situation. As a man, poor reaction can mean you striking the woman you love, or going off on one because you have the facts wrong or saying words that you can’t take back. The ultimate outcome usually ends up something you regret in life. No one can ever preempt their reactions to anything but always be determined to remain in control of your actions.

Let me be clear, every man rich or poor, successful or aspiring for greater success must remain responsible for his own life. He should keep his lusts in check, invest in rather than sell his integrity, be decisive and active about his his life, refuse to degrade himself for temporary pleasures and make sure that self control is applied in all things pertaining to life.

All things said with Love and Respect
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