You Have Things To Do

Whether its getting those grades or making that career move or making the gradaul transition into your newest entrepreneurial venture even finding love or getting over the hurt of a failed love. Always remember you have something great to do.

Beware of the paralysis that can come with fear of missing the mark in whatever goal you set for yourself.

Your goals can be intimidating majorly because they mean you having to change habits that have got you by but not made you fly. However with a change in habits will come a new perspective. There will be clarity of what more can be done with the time you have.

Use your time to excel and make meaningful moves. Read books for the areas of your ignorance
, ask questions to mentors in the area of your ventures, ask for help in the area of your limitation and ask for a team when the task requires more than the strength of one man. In the process I ask that you don’t ignore your desire for fulfilment. Dont ignore the values that keep you down to earth when your world is upside down. Your values affect choices abd choices affect outcomes and outcomes reflect true success.

So although you have things to do make sure you live life in the process of doing rather than skip life because of what you are doing.

Heres to doing whats worth it and what meaningful.

Peace &  Love

Mr Vito Speaks

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The Choices We Make

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Today I want to touch on the fact that we all have choices or decisions to make when it comes to our everyday living. As of recent as I journey more into what I love doing along with meeting with very interesting and highly influential people, from the depths of me I can testify that the decisions we make under the influence of our destiny will ultimately affect how long we continue to fulfil destiny for.

DECISION a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration

Before we get into our element of achievement or momentum of success we may be consistently apprehensive and unclear about the impact of our decisions on the course of events. However as soon as we get in the zone every decision matters. Every decision connects to our self discipline, exposes our gifts that bit more. It makes us a force to be reckoned with.

Our decisions formulate the engine of our successes and if we are not in the mind of mindfully minding our decisions then we always risk disrupting the progress we are destined for.

I get this feeling that some of us have really taken our decisions for granted expecting that everything will work out for us even though we are constantly making bad decisions. My word of caution to you is that you need to sit up when the lessons of life are showing you its time to change your ways.

There is a saying that goes

“A WISE man sees trouble ahead of time and avoids it, but a foolish man walks on and is punished for it”

Rigjtly so there is a divine  element  that embellish the wise decisions we make but divine  enablment will never make up for poor mistakes. Indeed the absence of well thought out decisions always leads to disappointment and I want to challenge you to treasure your self enough to consider the true cost of your decisions and the impact they will have on the future you want.

Have A Good Day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Do You Need To Wait Or Stop?

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Did you know that there is a difference between stopping and waiting in life? Some people think the two words mean the same but actually they are different in what they are asking you to do.

When I tell you to stop it means be stationery and cease what you are doing. This means your hopes of moving are in control of whoever has told you to stop and its likely you don’t really have the say in when you can be on the go again or if at all you will be on the go again.

When I tell you to wait Im actually asking you to pause with an anticipation that your moment to go can come any second. Im saying be ready to go at a moments notice. To wait is very strategic. It requires patience and a whole set of skills that come with maturity to wait and be successful doing exactly just that waiting.

Today  I want to say, there is a difference between some one telling you to stop what you are doing with your life and someome telling you to wait. So many of us are guilty of misinterpreting the word wait and thinking it means stop and that we must never do that thing again.

When your teacher told you to stop doing something it means that they dont want that thing to happen again. A truly good teacher would see how your actions are ruining the classes chance of reaching the Learning objectives.

When your teacher tells you to wait it suggests that you can and should anticipate that there will be a moment you can do that very thing you desire to do just not yet.

Overtime I have realised that immature people need to be told to stop all the time because even their most well meaning actions can cause heart ache and discomfort in themselves,  the people they love and the bigger picture, in the same vein mature people only need to be told to wait.  You see mature people consider all the things Ive just mentioned above and instead of misbehaving out of impatience they choose a stance that enables them to rise up to the occasion as opposed to stumping their feet in protest or acting out of frustration.

Basically if you cant be told to wait then you have a lot of growing up to do. If you can’t be told to stop and the word stop doesn’t even make sense to you then there are serious discipline issues that need to be resolved before you can be trusted to wait and move when the time is right.

Today ask yourself what are you being told to do more of. STOP OR WAIT.

Stop means – “What you are doing right now could ruin your bigger picture and the lives of others”

Wait means – “I know you can see the bigger picture and what you are about to do could really build a better future but your timing must be precise”

Have a good day..

@MrVitoSpeaks

Leadership Notes: Reflection And New Thinking

I sincerely hope that my thoughts find you strong and well. As we wrap up 2013 I just want to thank everyone who was a part of my personal developmental process. Admittedly it is not easy to just share ones thoughts especially when they go against the grain of people you may still be talking to and engaging with on a regular basis. Anyway I share because I care, it is what it is.

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Over time I have come to find that if you have a voice, you should speak and in doing so be prepared to accept whatever comes with that voice being heard and that includes the perks and the set backs. In 2013 I encountered so many interesting people who have some great views as well as some with not so great views in relation to mine. I learnt something from all of them and I sincerely hope that they have learnt something from me.

Ironically when we think of our personal development and its implications we rarely look at its impact on others. People who are self focused assume that personal development is all about “Me, Myself, And I” but really the best benefits are usually received by the people right next to you. A better me means that I give better advice to those in need of it, a better me means I see less of myself and more of the amazingness of the people around me. A better me means I trust people with the things that I discern they can handle rather than just what they say with their mouths.

In reflection there is very little I would do differently in 2013. I have made mistakes most especially mistakes unique to my Purpose and my desire to help others.

2014 is that time to improve as I realise what needs to be changed rather than waiting for time to go by before I look closer.

3 Things To do differently In 2014…

1) Stop assuming that just because someone has nodded their head in agreement to something you said it means that they are on the same boat as you concerning all other thoughts around the subject. Its likely that truth is as fleeting as a phone call or whatsapp broadcast. (They never take it seriously unless theres something tangeble in it for them)
“The truth looks good in the time of seeking but its very difficult to maintain in the time of testing”
When you share with someone something that you have discovered to be true over time and they seem on your side but when they are tested on that conviction they crumble and give all the excuses as to why its not such a big deal then perhaps you were never really in agreement. Please get it now. In the absence of agreement even the truth we agreed on can and will become our biggest source of dispute.

2) Leaving important decisions to indecisive people.
In dealing with people you will notice traits that destroy that persons well being as well as yours. When you forsake your convictions because someone is yet to decide which side they are on through their conduct, you subconsciously slow yourself down from progressive development.
You become an accessory to their indecisions.

“Indecision is an enemy to who you are going to be if you already know what you are doing.” Martin Vito

3) Put your hands up when you have tried your best to help and it has been rejected. I am in no way encouraging you to give up on “People” but I am encouraging you to give up on the messy situations in your life that pertain to someone else’s shortcomings most especially when they are not willing work with you. I believe in investing in people but I do not believe in allowing your time to be consumed by wild goose chases.

a) Its a wild goose chase when your contributions are taken with negligence.
b) Its a wild goose chase when your words and actions match up but they still dont believe you have integrity.
c) Its a wild goose chase when you Love them but they dont expect some heat for inconsistency.

Helping a friend is a good thing, but helping a friend and foresaking destiny well thats just dumb. So forgive me if it idoesnt seem like Im interested in chasing someone trying to hide.

That being said Im very much looking forward to speaking at length with those who want to be helped beyond the consmetic level of transformation. Matters of the heart are not taken lightly when they affect your destiny.

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So much more good to come for those who seek answers without reservation.

All things said with Love and Respect
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Womanhood Qualities Part 1

This is a useful fragment of thought on the subject of Powerful Women, Love and Patience….
Good woman, do not take offence but acknowledge the viewpoint and let your curiosity explore and understand what is being said.

Patience
If you have ever dealt with an impatient woman then you may understand the earnest findings I have made. Impatient women tend to have a way about them that reduces good things happening the way they expect them to. Never in life allow impatience to be your downfall. Impulse actions, demands and unearned entitlements, are all signs of impatience and such situations are usually short lived.

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When you always expect your potential partner to play tennis when they are more of a chess player you may find yourself burning steam on the wrong situations and even claiming that your potential partner is out to annoy you. You tend to overlook the chance of getting to know the mans tempo and assume a lot about what he should be doing and how quick he should be moving.

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Women who demand a man moves faster than his normal pace of operation must have the patience to factor in, a mans natural resistance to change, and the threat a relationship poses to his personal set up. Also in the case of a man who is actually looking for commitment his hesitance could be a signal that he is observing something about the woman that is making him fearful. It may be in the words from her mouth, through her conduct or even through her emerging reputation but it is her responsibility to patiently seek out the reasons for which a commitment hasn’t been made. So I will advise that before you dear powerful woman demand dedication from a man I believe your words, your conduct and reputation should be cleaned up.
A goodman may be ready to let go of singleness to embrace commitment but he too needs a chance to adjust to the new settings. Whilst exercising your patience also have good expectations of the mans adjustments. If while adjusting, your potential partner still sees it fit to be in the company of the wrong kind of women then patience is not needed.

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A decision about where to invest time needs to be made by the man.
Thus every woman who is already exercising patience should know that there is always a time limit on patience. If 5-6Years go by and marriage is still a fleeting thought then you have exercised way too much patience and it is most likely you are living in a subconscious marriage(bad idea). A patient woman should not make the decision as to whether a man will commit to her or not but rather drive a man to make a decision.

A Patient Woman Talks Like This:-
“I really enjoy spending time with you and I have been wondering what the purpose of us meeting is. I don’t want to abuse our friendship by assuming or pretending we are going somewhere you don’t want to go. Did you have a desire to take this to a higher level of commitment?
If not then please let me know so I know where we are now and I want you to know as much as it might be uncomfortable I would be okay moving on to dating other people if commitment is not possible for you at this time.”

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“Remember being a powerful woman doesn’t and shouldn’t make you immune to asking for and experiencing real love.”

All things said with Love and Respect
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