Relationship Short Notes :- Hurt People

If you are a hurting person, take the time to assess the depth of your pain. Whatever you have been through can either be a stepping stone or bear trap to your emotional development. Whatever you store in your heart if it be, envy, malice, anger, bitterness, discontentment, frustration, wrath or just plain old negativity you could find yourself destroying other people to heal your broken heart. What you went through was not right and I figure it feels ten times worse when you see that the person you were hurt by is living a seemingly happy and blissful life. It would be smart to confront the person who hurt you and see where that conversation ends up. If you find it becoming abusive in nature, you know a sort of RE run of what happened in the past then say your peace and leave calmly. Dont be afraid to alert that person know that you are letting that guy/girl go..

If you are the one hurting others it’s about time you came to your senses and realise that this world and its awesome ball like shape does not revolved around you. You are not the sun! You constantly create turmoil for others all in a bid to get your personal satisfaction but what have you done for others lately? Why do you deserve to lead people to their emotional destructions? Shouldn’t you at least have some form of mercy and truth in you that tells you that your habits are creating chaos.
For, this day onwards lets be clear!

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All things said with Love and Respect
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Womanhood Qualities Part 1

This is a useful fragment of thought on the subject of Powerful Women, Love and Patience….
Good woman, do not take offence but acknowledge the viewpoint and let your curiosity explore and understand what is being said.

Patience
If you have ever dealt with an impatient woman then you may understand the earnest findings I have made. Impatient women tend to have a way about them that reduces good things happening the way they expect them to. Never in life allow impatience to be your downfall. Impulse actions, demands and unearned entitlements, are all signs of impatience and such situations are usually short lived.

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When you always expect your potential partner to play tennis when they are more of a chess player you may find yourself burning steam on the wrong situations and even claiming that your potential partner is out to annoy you. You tend to overlook the chance of getting to know the mans tempo and assume a lot about what he should be doing and how quick he should be moving.

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Women who demand a man moves faster than his normal pace of operation must have the patience to factor in, a mans natural resistance to change, and the threat a relationship poses to his personal set up. Also in the case of a man who is actually looking for commitment his hesitance could be a signal that he is observing something about the woman that is making him fearful. It may be in the words from her mouth, through her conduct or even through her emerging reputation but it is her responsibility to patiently seek out the reasons for which a commitment hasn’t been made. So I will advise that before you dear powerful woman demand dedication from a man I believe your words, your conduct and reputation should be cleaned up.
A goodman may be ready to let go of singleness to embrace commitment but he too needs a chance to adjust to the new settings. Whilst exercising your patience also have good expectations of the mans adjustments. If while adjusting, your potential partner still sees it fit to be in the company of the wrong kind of women then patience is not needed.

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A decision about where to invest time needs to be made by the man.
Thus every woman who is already exercising patience should know that there is always a time limit on patience. If 5-6Years go by and marriage is still a fleeting thought then you have exercised way too much patience and it is most likely you are living in a subconscious marriage(bad idea). A patient woman should not make the decision as to whether a man will commit to her or not but rather drive a man to make a decision.

A Patient Woman Talks Like This:-
“I really enjoy spending time with you and I have been wondering what the purpose of us meeting is. I don’t want to abuse our friendship by assuming or pretending we are going somewhere you don’t want to go. Did you have a desire to take this to a higher level of commitment?
If not then please let me know so I know where we are now and I want you to know as much as it might be uncomfortable I would be okay moving on to dating other people if commitment is not possible for you at this time.”

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“Remember being a powerful woman doesn’t and shouldn’t make you immune to asking for and experiencing real love.”

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