You Have Things To Do

Whether its getting those grades or making that career move or making the gradaul transition into your newest entrepreneurial venture even finding love or getting over the hurt of a failed love. Always remember you have something great to do.

Beware of the paralysis that can come with fear of missing the mark in whatever goal you set for yourself.

Your goals can be intimidating majorly because they mean you having to change habits that have got you by but not made you fly. However with a change in habits will come a new perspective. There will be clarity of what more can be done with the time you have.

Use your time to excel and make meaningful moves. Read books for the areas of your ignorance
, ask questions to mentors in the area of your ventures, ask for help in the area of your limitation and ask for a team when the task requires more than the strength of one man. In the process I ask that you don’t ignore your desire for fulfilment. Dont ignore the values that keep you down to earth when your world is upside down. Your values affect choices abd choices affect outcomes and outcomes reflect true success.

So although you have things to do make sure you live life in the process of doing rather than skip life because of what you are doing.

Heres to doing whats worth it and what meaningful.

Peace &  Love

Mr Vito Speaks

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Wheres the wisdom in that?!

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Today dont get caught slipping in the trap of “I have no good reason for doing this except that I feel like doing it”. 

Many a good people have fallen by the wayside of life because they spent time doing something because they felt like it and not because it was necessary for where they were going and neither was it good for who they were.

So instesd of leading to some kind of fulfilment it led to pain and unnecessary grief. This in fact could be an on going failed relationship with a person who not only doesn’t know how to relate but further  more cannot be bothered  to relate with you. It could be a job in something you hate but stick to because it pays the bills, absolutely nothing wrong with that until you factor in that the absence of wisdom means you’re drillimg yourself into the groumd for something you will regret later. However you just went with your feeling and now your feelings are entangled in an unforseen mess that is difficult to clean up. Better to decide early on that you will work on, in and do something around what you love and you will never be void of wisdom to excel in. You will find something new to accompany your already growing love.

Be fair and honorable with yourself  and perhaps intentionally discipline yourself to refuse to pay,  loan or even invest in situations you dont have actual Wisdom for.

I encourage that you face less of your distractions and face more of your destiny. Intentional steps will surely lead the right outcome so long as distractions sre ignored. The next time you are about to do or continue something ask yourself the pertinent question “where is the Wisdom in that?”
Thought processes to move mental mountains with

Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Leadership Notes: The Most Noise Doesnt Equal The Most Change

It is a general popular error to suppose the loudest complainers for the public to be the most anxious for its welfare.

Edmund Burke

When I came across this quote it struck a chord within me that I thought I should share.

Sometimes people make noise without actually mobilising their convictions and because they are gifted they lead people into thinking theres a movement meanwhile they are only making noise(Creating a Distraction from their own woes). The illusion of noise(Creating a Distraction) is more serious than people think. It is so strong it distracts the focus from those who are actually striving to cause change. As a consumer Where does your support go? Does it go to those who are loud and buoyant for the sake of it or to those are implementing change? Imagine what a difference it would make if we put our support in the right place. Our generations are so full of so many unsung heroes because as a society we give priority to Noise(Created Distractions) rather than truth.

Perhaps this is problem Change Makers mostly face, perhaps

“Well Organised Noise feels better than Not so organised change”.

The first element is that change makers in order to be noticed need to take their presentation more seriously than ever before. Poor presentation sometimes clouds the judgement of the consumer and erodes trust.

The second element being that sometimes human beings would rather be distracted by a puppet master and his array of entertaining contributions than awoken to the reality of their own personal responsibility to make meaningful contributions. Unfortunately there are not many ways to make responsibility fun(foolishly exciting) except training people to see the benefits of being responsible.

For example we celebrate and are constantly entertained by musicians and artists who have risen and profited fromtelling their stories in mostly harmful ways and the stories of the suffering masses but how many of them encourage true honest entrepreneurship or personal development beyond perfecting their artistic perversion? How many of them call on you to make better decisions than they have made. Most probably know that to suggest you change could mean they lose your custom reducing their financial bragging rights. So how about they encourage the fool in you and use your money to live smart.

Ironically because they voice our pain or blatantly abuse it both of which strike a deep chord in the heart of the hearers they get the accolades as though there are no people who actualise change. How many of them really put you and I in a better position to actualise the dream we carry?

Other examples include, those people who campaign for women to change their ways meanwhile they themselves take advantage of the same women they are trying to save, or the guru whose message is true for everyone but is a stumbling block to himself/herself. Realistically speaking a great many of us will be trapped in the slumber of our entertainment.

Call it a far fetched dream or a deeper search for significance but Im pushing on to the day that those who actually mobilise change will be celebrated correctly even as they better present the change they propose.

The masses may not do it immediately, but who said you need masses to cause change?

Dont forget to pick up the new book written by myself and Lola Vito.

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Leadership Notes: Influence and Attacks from Glory Hunters

Just realised I was one of those guys who never got picked for the 1st team đź‘€! loooool.

Disheartening I know but useful. Not being picked first always allowed me to see where people put their respect. It helped me to understand structure and ranking.

On the other hand not being picked for the first team felt somehow, like people couldnt trust me to deliver, majorly because they knew nothing about what I could do neither did they want to know. So in true false humility I hid behind what I thought was “Team” at that time. What I didnt realise is that I was neglecting my opportunity to be seen by always waiting for someone to finally pick me. I now know more than ever that I had to become a captain of my own team. I built up an awareness of encouragement and utilised even the little affirmation I recieved from those who cared including one of my amazing mentor Ms Edith Adesioye (CEO of Rehoboth Syndicate Consultancy). Acknowledging that I was no longer the victim of someone elses selfishness put me in better postion to deliver my goods.

The truth is we all want to be known for what we can do and what we can contribute however in our silence sometimes we are overshadowed by the Vanity of Glory hunters(People who live off your hard work and cut off your recognition) which overtakes our visibility.
Glory Hunters are usually a hinderance to your progress if you permit them consistent access to depreciate your personal values and peer pressure you into the corner of silence. They hunt for the credit on your effort and they go after the seed of your consistency.

I assure you, you must keep doing what you do and get wiser with your application of loyalty, why be loyal to people who are just present instead of people who PRESENT YOU? Glory hunters get tired especially when important work needs to get done and run out of steam when you the one full of “glory” divert your attention to the important people.
At which point what you were in secret becomes highly visible. Whatever happens dont stop chugging along and strengthening the value systems that got you to where you and keep you going. Remember this, Glory Hunters will will always be present when some form of success comes but dont depend on them for the fuel to achieve more.

When you decide to be the captain of your team make sure you dont have glory hunters in your midst.

#LeadershipNotes
All things said with Love and Respect
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4 Things Attractive People Can Do With Their Beauty

4 Things Attractive People Can Do With Their Beauty

If and when your beauty attracts any kind of attention from the same or the opposite sex. Aside from the obvious response “Thank You” here are four things you can do to maximise on that attention for your benefit and that of the other person.

1) Encourage the other person to find what makes them beautiful or even point it out if you can see it. People usually say what they would like to hear especially if they too have made an effort to look good, smell good, and clean up well.

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2) In the advent that you have more time bring attention to something that you are passionate about. It could be a cause or a business or even charity. Invite the person to take part or spread the word too. Outward Beauty is merely an attraction tool but it should not be the only thing about you that is amazing. When you have no substance or stand for nothing more than your outward appearance then it becomes a curse and a turn off. Some people only dress for attention, and they become a magnet for foolishness.

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3) Purposefully do something people in positions of attention usually do.
Plan your words and skills and presentation.
Choose wisely who you give and how you give maximum attention.
Self control and Discernment are extremely important when dealing with a new person. For instance women tend to attract different kinds of Men, and although most men have one thing on their mind other men are just curious about what makes a woman like you tick. In situations like this let discernment be your best friend. Some men have good intentions and others have bad, what matters most is how you handle that attention, whilst keeping your safety first and your integrity second and your weaknesses last.

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Know and understand that every person you interact with so long as your alive can walk into anyone of these positions in your life. From a compliment can come a prospect, a prospect could become a customer, a customer could become a supporter, a supporter could become an advocate and an advocate could become a Partner. This applies to all kinds of conversation.

Men attract women a lot through what they say and how they are perceived. Every man should use his “Charm” & “Charisma” responsibly. As an influential man I realise more and more that women love “Charm” &”Charisma” but I think that Men should use these tools for more positive outcomes. Personal prostitution through your influence is quite dangerous and I feel for you when you are looking for the right woman to call your wife. One day you will get there inevitably and its going to prove difficult when you start discussing her in your character. All this because you have handled your influence irresponsibly.

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4) Consider time and interactions as gifts and always make sure that you are the one giving it and not being robbed of it. Some people end up robbing you of precious time and before you know it your self esteem has taken a knocking. Always remain in charge of yourself regardless of how vulnerable you feel or how attracted you feel to the attention. You cannot predict everything that will happen but you can plan what you do in the event that things head in a direction you are not comfortable with.

All things said with Love and Respect,
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