In Bae We Trust Too Much!?

Firstly what is BAE and how did we get here? Well..

Bae,” Urban Dictionary says, is an acronym that stands for “before anyone else,” or a shortened version of baby or babe, another word for sweetie, and, mostly unrelated, poop in Danish.25 Jul 2014

I was intrigued by the definition “Before Anyone Else” It kind of lets you know how important or rather how much of your time,effort  and attention this one person can get but what happens when that person takes on the danish meaning of Bae? Do we accept and still keep them before anyone else? Do we remain dedicated and loyal to foolishness or do we depart in an orderly fashion and lie in wait for the next Bae? I mean it brings up so many questions but how do we deal with all this? Sometimes the reason it doesnt last with Bae a lot of the times we have picked Bae based on our wants and not our needs. When a person has poor or no deep awareness of thier actual needs and places their wants ahead of common sense they leave room for bad picking. 

We see a fruit and pick it based on our desire and not on knowledge about the tree and its due seasons. Someone can look like, sound like, act like they are ready but majority of the time without preparation no one is every ready to be put “Before Anyone Else”. In fact, for the most part, Bae is really as I say through my own interpretation “Basic Attention & Entertainment” yes you’re right I said basic. 

He or she is brought in to fill a void youve been wanting filled. You already felt empty and someone comes along and collects your affections, time and common sense. So you put them before anyone else in what you think is a sensible move while disregarding all the people that have made you amazing. 

So you mate, copulate and saturate your exisitence with theirs and start the process of courting and suddenly this man or womans “Basic Attention and Entertainment” is not enough for you because you suddenly realise that despite getting what you wanted you actually have always needed more. Your wants are met but your needs are creeping up on you. What are you going to do?

Please get this in your mind today! BASIC ATTENTION CANNOT BE TRUSTED

#FindWisdomAndGrowUp

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Word Of Advice – Be Careful Who You Let In

For so long I personally have witnessed and battled with the kind of people this thought refers to. You know little of pain until you are caught in the war and chaos created by a divisive person.

Divisive people like to create an ecosystem based around them and often their divisiveness is rooted in control of the ecosystem that feeds your destiny. Divisive people always seek to control the strings of vital relationships that feed your work, inspiration and those that give you validation.

They spend the most time seeking an explanation for your preservation, Deliverance & transformation. They want the keys to everything that makes you unique as though they will unlock your next level of growth but really left up to them they would rather put you in the grave of unfulfilled potentials. Having been around them, having been in the midst of them I want you to know that the conversation is not about your well-being but about exposing you to humiliation.

So mind yourself, be conscious that discussion about your plans, future, well-being is not supposed to be happening with people who by nature only see how they can dig holes rather than mount stepping stones.

I’m sure in 2017 you have wised up even if its just a little bit.

KIngly regards

King V

 

 

Kicking It With A King (Podcast)

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So the other day my friend was talking about how I should start a Podcast seeing as there is something in me speaking. I took on the challenge and decided to call it Kicking It With A King! I wanted this to mean something to everything I do with and have become with the people God has bless me with.

I don’t seek to dominate people but more Cultivate people for greatness! So with that said enjoy the podcasts as they come through!

Im definitely looking forward to doing more and who knows I would like to get some guests in. In the meantime lets put that foundation in place.

Among other things I do Youtube stuffs lool.

King Vito Speaks

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjtH4GUkSHdogrIBeFnXpNw

Enjoy!

Be Unique

For the longest time I have had friends and my family encouraging me to do Video Blogging and I didn’t post about my previous videos but I think it’s only right I start doing that now in hopes of cours that what I’m doing will empower someone to step out of their shell. We don’t all need to be famous to be effective but we need to speak out about things that matter to us and strive as much as depends on us to make a difference. In my eyes the people who watch the videos are worth my time, my effort and they will do what needs to be done.

Check out the video and subscribe good people.

 

You Have Things To Do

Whether its getting those grades or making that career move or making the gradaul transition into your newest entrepreneurial venture even finding love or getting over the hurt of a failed love. Always remember you have something great to do.

Beware of the paralysis that can come with fear of missing the mark in whatever goal you set for yourself.

Your goals can be intimidating majorly because they mean you having to change habits that have got you by but not made you fly. However with a change in habits will come a new perspective. There will be clarity of what more can be done with the time you have.

Use your time to excel and make meaningful moves. Read books for the areas of your ignorance
, ask questions to mentors in the area of your ventures, ask for help in the area of your limitation and ask for a team when the task requires more than the strength of one man. In the process I ask that you don’t ignore your desire for fulfilment. Dont ignore the values that keep you down to earth when your world is upside down. Your values affect choices abd choices affect outcomes and outcomes reflect true success.

So although you have things to do make sure you live life in the process of doing rather than skip life because of what you are doing.

Heres to doing whats worth it and what meaningful.

Peace &  Love

Mr Vito Speaks

Are They Pressing Your Buttons?

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Too often a lot of us are frustrated with the way our lives are going but we constantly overlook the fact that we stopped being able to act on the truth we know after we gave away our self control to someone else and now we are remotely controlled by them.

Many of us cant and wont take responsibility for ourselves because someone else now has the pleasure of deciding our fate no matter how far away they are from us. Far away from the heart but close enough to cut the veins.

You really want to stop the ups and downs of emotional rollercoasters that involve you? Then take back your strength from the people sucking you lifeless with endless mind control tactics. Its constantly left you feeling exhausted,  depressed and for the most part of your year mentally ill.

Your true friends dont, can’t even know you anymore as you are turning into a shadow of your former self and your tongue is full of hopelessness and at best “hopefully”.  You used to be definite and focused but now youre divided a conquered. A city without adequate guards or watchful people.

“No” is your first word and “more” is the second word that must follow closely.

NO MORE “remotely controlling behaviour”

NO MORE “Loveless communications”

NO MORE “Mopping Up After Messy Inconsiderate children in the bodies of adults”

NO MORE!

You dont need anyone to tell you anything more as you can already feel the frustration is driving you insane and instead of literally Killing your self. Take a hold of your self,  strengthen your faith and your mind and break the remote control today!

Have A Good Day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Stop Pretending and Get Help

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You know I don’t know how long people can ignore things that need to be talked about but I for one would prefer to discuss it before it becomes the storm I will be swept away by. So many of us really could be better people by now by, dealing with the wounds of the soul with care, dignity and urgency. When you are injured and maybe even see a hint of blood you think to yourself “I need to go to the A & E to make sure nothings broken.” If only we behaved in the same way when it comes to our emotional injuries, mental injuries we would heal quickly and be even more satisfied as people. When will make it a point tl ensure that nothing inside is broken?

Unfortunately most of us take out eyes off the ball of resolving internal conflicts and traumas until of course they start showing up in the things we do on a daily basis. Women who refuse to acknowledge the importance of men because even their fathers we absent or lacked presence in the home. Men who can’t bring themselves to the alter to marry out of concern that they too will bail out on an actual family because Dad did the same. Most people do nothing until it begins to tear apart their loved ones and literally creates casualties out of well meaning relationships and well placed opportunities.

Yes ladies and gentlemen please understand that when what lies beneath remains lies beneath.
We are slowly poisoning the source of our joys, strengths, abilities, connections and soon it will make itself known in some way shape or form.

While you fail, neglect, refuse, and reject to address your issues with some true conversation and therapy you are creating something in you you will either be ashamed of or will literally troll your successes.

Folks who are in denial are the hardest to deal with. They deny that something is bubbling over into another thing. They create lethal friendship connections, faulty relationships with the opposite sex and are just never available enough for actual transformation. They are the people who respond last minute to the storm warnings. They are the ones who devastate others way more and in so doing their most decisive tool is pretending they are actually OK when everything about them will KO the next vulnerable person around them in some way shape or form.
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Please stop pretending and get the help you need PRONTO!.
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Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks

The Choices We Make

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Today I want to touch on the fact that we all have choices or decisions to make when it comes to our everyday living. As of recent as I journey more into what I love doing along with meeting with very interesting and highly influential people, from the depths of me I can testify that the decisions we make under the influence of our destiny will ultimately affect how long we continue to fulfil destiny for.

DECISION a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration

Before we get into our element of achievement or momentum of success we may be consistently apprehensive and unclear about the impact of our decisions on the course of events. However as soon as we get in the zone every decision matters. Every decision connects to our self discipline, exposes our gifts that bit more. It makes us a force to be reckoned with.

Our decisions formulate the engine of our successes and if we are not in the mind of mindfully minding our decisions then we always risk disrupting the progress we are destined for.

I get this feeling that some of us have really taken our decisions for granted expecting that everything will work out for us even though we are constantly making bad decisions. My word of caution to you is that you need to sit up when the lessons of life are showing you its time to change your ways.

There is a saying that goes

“A WISE man sees trouble ahead of time and avoids it, but a foolish man walks on and is punished for it”

Rigjtly so there is a divine  element  that embellish the wise decisions we make but divine  enablment will never make up for poor mistakes. Indeed the absence of well thought out decisions always leads to disappointment and I want to challenge you to treasure your self enough to consider the true cost of your decisions and the impact they will have on the future you want.

Have A Good Day

@MrVitoSpeaks

Do You Need To Wait Or Stop?

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Did you know that there is a difference between stopping and waiting in life? Some people think the two words mean the same but actually they are different in what they are asking you to do.

When I tell you to stop it means be stationery and cease what you are doing. This means your hopes of moving are in control of whoever has told you to stop and its likely you don’t really have the say in when you can be on the go again or if at all you will be on the go again.

When I tell you to wait Im actually asking you to pause with an anticipation that your moment to go can come any second. Im saying be ready to go at a moments notice. To wait is very strategic. It requires patience and a whole set of skills that come with maturity to wait and be successful doing exactly just that waiting.

Today  I want to say, there is a difference between some one telling you to stop what you are doing with your life and someome telling you to wait. So many of us are guilty of misinterpreting the word wait and thinking it means stop and that we must never do that thing again.

When your teacher told you to stop doing something it means that they dont want that thing to happen again. A truly good teacher would see how your actions are ruining the classes chance of reaching the Learning objectives.

When your teacher tells you to wait it suggests that you can and should anticipate that there will be a moment you can do that very thing you desire to do just not yet.

Overtime I have realised that immature people need to be told to stop all the time because even their most well meaning actions can cause heart ache and discomfort in themselves,  the people they love and the bigger picture, in the same vein mature people only need to be told to wait.  You see mature people consider all the things Ive just mentioned above and instead of misbehaving out of impatience they choose a stance that enables them to rise up to the occasion as opposed to stumping their feet in protest or acting out of frustration.

Basically if you cant be told to wait then you have a lot of growing up to do. If you can’t be told to stop and the word stop doesn’t even make sense to you then there are serious discipline issues that need to be resolved before you can be trusted to wait and move when the time is right.

Today ask yourself what are you being told to do more of. STOP OR WAIT.

Stop means – “What you are doing right now could ruin your bigger picture and the lives of others”

Wait means – “I know you can see the bigger picture and what you are about to do could really build a better future but your timing must be precise”

Have a good day..

@MrVitoSpeaks

Head and Heart 

When people say stuff like “I really want to find the person to have and to hold for the rest of my life but on the inside they are saying, these hoes aint loyal.” I cannot blame them, their desires are mixing with the genuine fears of a generation that is so well sex trained that it is almost completely Love broke. They are looking for and expecting people who are not in a position to be loyal to become their most trusted Lover. #FIXYOURLIFE #HowSway!?

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You my friend may be suffering from a grand delusion that will keep you running around in circles. Here you are saying you want a Virtuous woman but your secret relationship with porn and hoes clouds your judgement about the kind of things you should really be asking of a truly virtuous woman.

You know there are guys who may admit they want respect and love but when they are in a position to gain exactly that they instead of walking the safe route of maturity they start trying to figure out how they can take advantage of the availability of a virtuous woman.

They ask and seek for sexual gratification and in so doing they lose sight of what they originally approached her for if they had any noble intentions to begin with. You went to a virtuous woman demanding she behave like the the hoes that are not loyal!!? Are you alright? Why do you wish to compromise her virtue with your 50 shades of grey that lead to her loosing her confidence trying to keep up with you.

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What about the girls who constantly want attention via social media, go to “church” but be actively SEXTING guys in a bid to appease their own lusts and desire for attention but would gladly quote a religious text in their online bio’s or worse its the same girl that will retweet a picture/video, meme of someone in a sexually compromising position pretty much polluting even the most innocent eye? The same girl then complains/retweets/rants about the shortage of good men!!! #SHUTUP. If its real virtue you have then you should stop with the siren behaviour, be yourself and conduct yourself in the way you wouldnt mind your Father finding you.

 

I dare you to stop getting on your knees for the wrong reasons and for the wrong people. At this rate permit me to make you are aware that there are two types of kneeling that a person can to do on a frequent basis, one leads to blessings and elevation and the other leads to humiliation and if you are even more unlucky it will be on social media.

 

Stop asking for good things when you don’t intend to be good enough to maintain and treasure them especially people. – @MrVitoSpeaks

To be fair there is a shortage of actual good men for you to ruin because these men don’t think with their penis, they think with their rational head and purposeful heart. Are these men in denial of their sexual urges? Absolutely not! In fact they are so in touch that a virtuous woman commits to life with him she will feel the love during the first night and beyond it (Okay may be not the first night 🙂 ).

As much as I wish that this type of sexual seduction from seemingly genuine people could stop I doubt it will but  I would like to make a call to all the ‘Virtuous Women and Faithful Men’ out there that its time to understand that you could actually be with someone you can love and cherish but if youre out here living in the half way house where you make genuine requests to be with virtue but are always obsessed over compromised people you are delaying and prolonging in many ways your eligibility to the mature men and women because of cheap but very costly gimics.

Imagine so many pure intentioned people mixing their Visions and Purposes with lust instead of love, with humiliation instead of humility, with Thots insteads Good Thoughts, with Subservience instead of healthy Submission.

Yes! you are are right this is indeed the world we live in but there is no where, where it is written in stone that you must continue to live like this to find what/who you are truly asking for.

Have a good day

@MrVitoSpeaks